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Raise your emotional intelligence to boost your career

What if you could reduce or even avoid conflicts at work?  What if you could elicit more volunteerism, cooperation and collaboration on your team?  What might happen if you could better manage your initial emotional reactions to incidents and respond vs. react?

That is the power of emotional intelligence.  Boost your emotional intelligence and improve your work relationships and results with the tools below delivered in a recent workshop.

The good news is emotional intelligence can be learned and improved and has a 2 to 1 success ratio over IQ and technical skills!

The following materials are from a workshop on how to leverage and boost emotional intelligence at work for the Association Forum.  See how these tools can help you! Contact Gail for ways to tailor this to you or your team.

1. What is emotional intelligence? Learn how to boost your success at work
2. Discover 3 tools to improve work relationships and self-regulation:
   • Tool #1:  Me vs. Them
   • Tool #2:  Conflict Management Worksheet
   • Tool #3:  Designing Alliances
3. Find 10 secrets to boost your emotional intelligence you can put into action today
4. NEW!  Get the expanded 10 secrets now in a 44-page eBook. Get your copy below. 
5. Evidence that emotional intelligence makes a difference-- participant learning!
6. Fear-driven behaviors listed by Marshall Goldsmith as 20 bad habits impeding success.

Sign up!  Get your complimentary copy of the eBook, "10 Secrets to Boost Your Emotional Intelligence (and Your Career)" to increase your success. 

One fan said of this eBook, "Gail, you are so good at making intellectual connections, recognizing patterns and seeing and being open to possibilities. I'm always struck by the apparent ease with which you create simple and powerful exercises - elegant, strength-based solutions that help people address their challenges.  I'm certified to administer and interpret two EI instruments, and though I like the insights they offer, the support material addressing the "so now what?" question has, in my opinion, been lacking. Your exercises move the issue from an intellectual concept to real life examples that people can grab onto and do something with." Candace Thompson, PCC

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21 Personal Evolution Strategies

This is a list of 21 stimulating approaches to life is designed to inspire new thinking, big dreaming and empowered action.  Read through this list and see which one most excites you to experiment and think, feel and act with more personal power! 

Email me at gail @ inspiredchoice.com for a private conversation about how you can make this a habit and boost your evolution.

To evolve more quickly and easily…

1. Surround yourself with new ideas instead of recycling your beliefs. Beliefs can limit your ability to experience life as it unfolds.

2. Make chaos your friend. The unexpected is a good thing as long as you’re open to it.

3. Let your environments do most of your evolutionary work for you. Evolution occurs as you adapt to such environments.

10 Secrets to Increase Emotional Intelligence

Increase your emotional intelligence and success with these 10 recommended actions.  Increase your self-awareness and self-regulation. All you need is to experiment and practice.  

What new practice will you try today?  Share it in our Discussion Area

Read on to get all 10 tips.  To get you started, here is Tip #1, the most important of all!  Be conscious and aware.  Stay awake in your relationships and interactions.

How Fear-Driven Habits Inhibit Success - M. Goldsmith

I am fascinated by the impact of fear on our behavior and how it limits success.  It's those times you don't act or scale back because you are worried about what "they" will think.  It's when we try too hard, cling to past successes, fail to give proper recognition and all those times you wanted to look good, sometimes at the expense of others.

In support of the power of boosting your emotional intelligence, here is more evidence.  Marshall Goldsmith captured proof in his work with the top 3% of leaders that bad interpersonal skills hold executives back from the success they desire.  His book, "What got You Here Won't Get You There," explains that success factors in an exemplary career will hit a wall one day.

He identified 20 bad habits that need to change to succeed.  Download Marshall Goldsmith 20 Bad Habits .  I believe most if not all of these behaviors are fear-driven. That's actually a relief! It's easier to learn to work through fear instead of working on 20 behaviors, right?

Gail recommends and teaches individuals, teams and leaders how to do this without a personality transplant!  Find out how Gail can help you transform and improve your interactions with others by boosting your emotional intelligence to get more done, with less conflict and stress and more success in a 30-minute complimentary consultation.  Email Gail now.

Emotional Intelligence Tool #3 -- Design Your Alliances

How often do you join a team, start a new job, or strike up a friendship and find that along the way your expectations are not being met and disagreements arise?   The key to emotional intelligence is to bring consciousness and awareness into your relationships.  You can take proactive action by designing your alliances intentionally.

People are raised in different families, different cultures and hold different beliefs about human interaction.  We operate with our own set of rules.  Wouldn't it be great if we were born with an Owners Manual we could hand to others as we meet them?!  Well you can.  Get to know yourself, how you work best and what you need.  Then find, design and build relationships that support the Real You.  See how you can apply the tips listed below.

What is Emotional Intelligence?

Research suggests that a person's emotional intelligence (EQ) might be a greater predictor of success than his or her intellectual intelligence (IQ), despite an assumption that people with high IQs will naturally accomplish more in life.  In 1995, psychologist Daniel Goleman popularized this term with his book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.  (Source: www.ivillage.com)

Emotional intelligence is a set of skills that defines how effectively you perceive, understand, reason with and manage yours and other people's feelings and emotions.

The good news is emotional intelligence can be learned and improved and has a 2 to 1 success ratio over IQ and technical skills!

Contact Gail to receive more in depth guidance and to see how emotional intelligence can powerfully impact your team.  *Continue reading to learn highlights of Daniel Goleman's research of top performing leaders.

Emotional Intelligence Tool #1 -- ME vs. THEM

This is not meant to be an adversarial "versus," rather a comparison of how we interpret what is about ourselves and what is about others.

I want you to think of a situation or relationship at work that often challenges your or seems to often bring up conflict.  Now, draw on your paper 2 stick figures; label one of them "Me" and the other label "Them."  In this situation,

Emotional Intelligence Tool #2 -- Conflict Management Worksheet

This is a tool you can use with others or as a way to privately help you take the charge or strong emotional reaction out of a situation.  Many situations we consider a conflict are really just a conversation where two people trigger strong reactions in one or both.  

The goal is to neutralize the event and separate out what your feelings are, your judgement or interpretation and what you need to move forward.  Fill in the blanks on the worksheet below as you learn new ways of thinking that will reduce conflicts.