Inspired Choice

Interview w/Faith Curtis-- Power of Aligning Yes & No

Faith Curtis, my guest expert, coaches individuals and groups who are interested in defining their own lives and living the life they were meant to live. She also designs and leads a variety of retreats, workshops and conferences since she started her coaching business over nine years ago.

One of Faith’s passions is coaching people to respect themselves by setting personal and professional boundaries. She helps them become aware of how saying “yes” when their body and soul are screaming “no” is destroying their spirit, vitality and passion. Once this awareness is gained, then she works with them to discover new tools and methods to own their power thereby significantly improving the quality of their lives

Faith is trained and certified by the Coaches Training Institute and the International Coach Federation as a Professional Certified Coach. Her formal education includes a Master’s in Social Work. In addition to her experience as a Clinical Social Worker, Faith led the human resource department for a medical equipment manufacturer for over 13 years.

Special offer from Faith! As a special gift to my newsletter readers, Faith is generously offering a 30-minute complimentary phone consultation to explore creating one new empowering practice to create a more healthy boundary in your work life.  Contact Faith via email at [email protected] to set up a mutually convenient time for this call.  http://www.faithcurtis.net

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Gail:  Today’s feature article teaches how to overcome the discomfort of saying “No” and setting boundaries.  Why is it important to develop this skill for our careers or business?

Faith:  When you say “Yes” and feel “No” inside, you are setting your needs aside and not taking care of yourself, and what’s more, you’re not doing anyone a favor.  You can easily start resenting the other person and invite negativity into the relationship. When you ignore your own needs, you’re not taking care of yourself. If you don’t take care for yourself, how can you be available and give your gifts and talents to others?  Instead, you’re busy giving your energy, time and power away.  When you set boundaries you feel better about yourself.  This increases confidence and has you feel empowered to make choices.  It reminds you that you HAVE choices.  If you make one small choice and say “No” during your day or renegotiate, you will feel better throughout the day.  You will feel and look like someone who is in control. 

Overcome the difficulty of saying "No" by starting with "Yes, and!"

If you are like me, managing time and getting all you have to get done completed is an elusive goal.  Fitting in time for what you want to do seems impossible.  I used to joke that while I slept at night, little time-stealing gremlins scheduled things on my calendar without my knowledge! 

Is this you?  As your "to do" list grows and your calendar groans, every day you resolve you are going to work smarter, be more efficient and finally get it all done! And then, not only do you only get a few things done but now you have more tasks on the list! No matter how much you try, day after day is the same! You feel overwhelmed, hopeless, stressed and out of control. 

Overview.  Join me as we look at the underlying issues and emotional hooks that contribute to this feeling of powerlessness over your time. Not to mention the bit of resentment (anger) you feel from the pressure that can "leak out" as uncharacteristic impatience in traffic, with your family, co-workers or service people waiting on you.

Below are solutions you can put to immediate use including a proven technique that helps you shift your perspective about saying "No" and take inspired action! 

Listen to a 23-minute success interview with my buddy, Joe, a financial services senior executive, who has had amazing results empowering others and himself AND reclaiming 3 hours each day by saying "No" by saying "Yes, and...!"  Click here, use the player below or download the MP3 file.