Inspired Choice

The Power of Renegotiating Commitments

You have power you may not realize -- You can RENEGOTIATE when you make commitments!

Remember you have the option to renegotiate with the person or group with whom you made the commitment when you cannot keep the original commitment! Think about it. Do you stay committed out of obligation? What is your true desire?

AN INSPIRED CHOICE INSIGHT:

You can plan for your success when you build and practice the skill of renegotiating commitments.

Benefits of Renegotiating: Personally (internally and emotionally) and Professionally

• Knowing you can renegotiate, protects and honors the reality and expectation that
  • you are human
  • mistakes happen
  • things change
  • your desires change
• Renegotiating gives you a way to maintain or restore integrity and your commitment when you've possibly overcommitted, circumstances change, new information is received, unexpected delays outside your control happen, etc. 
• This is habit supports the practice of always seeking agreement with your client and communicating cleanly and clearly.
• You will model a practice and behaviors your client will likely appreciate, admire, remember and perhaps wish to emulate.
• Follow your true and changing desires!

What impact can you imagine in your personal and professional life if you practice your power of honoring your true desires and renegotiating vs. staying committed out of obligation?

 

21 Personal Evolution Strategies

This is a list of 21 stimulating approaches to life is designed to inspire new thinking, big dreaming and empowered action.  Read through this list and see which one most excites you to experiment and think, feel and act with more personal power! 

Email me at gail @ inspiredchoice.com for a private conversation about how you can make this a habit and boost your evolution.

To evolve more quickly and easily…

1. Surround yourself with new ideas instead of recycling your beliefs. Beliefs can limit your ability to experience life as it unfolds.

2. Make chaos your friend. The unexpected is a good thing as long as you’re open to it.

3. Let your environments do most of your evolutionary work for you. Evolution occurs as you adapt to such environments.

How do you operate best? Read the manual!

When your cell phone stops working or your computer freezes, you turn to the owner's manual, or an expert, for help. Right?

How well do you understand the care and feeding of YOUR equipment... YOU?!  Wouldn't it be nice if, when we were born, we had an owner's manual attached at the end of our umbilical cord?  You could hand it to people you work with, date, marry, and interact with and they would know how to get the most out of a relationship with you!

The good news is you can write your own manual! The key to greater happiness is to listen to the special programming of your built-in GPS and your operating system.  Self-awareness and managing your energy at the P.I.E.S.* level will guide you to thoughts, emotions, choices, actions and results that make you happier and healthier!  (*Physical, Intellectual, Emotional, Spiritual)

Here is a simple, yet thought-provoking, tool that will guide you to a new level of understanding about how your equipment operates, warning signs of a problem, trouble shooting tips and ways to avoid energy drains and replenish energy levels when needed.

Click here to download the Inspired Choice Owner's Manual. Set aside 30 minutes and a quiet state of mind to complete this form.  Then email Gail to learn how you can integrate this learning into new habits of thought and behavior. 

If you are serious about reducing overwhelm, increasing reslience and optimism, and making choices that guide you to deeper levels of career and personal happiness, email Gail or call 773.477.4012 for a complimentary phone consultation to learn how she helps executives, women and teams take brave action for greater career success and joy.

For more information on emotional intelligence go to this link!

 

Self-help poem -- Autobiography in 5 Short Chapters

I first experienced this reading while sitting in my spiritually-inspired synagogue in Chicago (Makom Shalom) during the Jewish New Year.  As I contemplated the year coming to a close and my desires to rededicate myself to strength, learning, personal and professional growth, I found the humor and wisdom here to remind me of habits, self-kindness, self-forgiveness and choices.

In my work as a coach and trainer, I help people to increase awareness, take responsibility and make different choices.  Where do you see yourself in this story? What hole do you need to walk around?

Autobiography in 5 Short Chapters
a poem by Portia Nelson, published in her book
There's a Hole in My Sidewalk: The Romance of Self-Discovery

Chapter I
I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk
I fall in.
I am lost ... I am helpless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

The Guest House Poem by Rumi

Read this inspiring poem or listen to a reading with a listening guide below. 

If you would like help interpreting how this fits in your life, call me at 773.477.4012 or email me.

The Guest House

This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing .
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

~ Jelaluddin Rumi ~

From Essential Rumi

by Coleman Barks

13 century Persian poem

Tips to stop the frenzy and dis-ease of too much DOING

The Symptoms. You just returned from vacation and there is SO much work to do so you immediately re-engage your good 'ole multi-tasking behavior and your vacation is a dim memory 2 days later. ***  You spent and extra 30 minutes with your 5-yeard-old before leaving for work and now you feel you are behind and will be trying to catch up all day. *** You decided to help someone in the office or at home with a special project instead of doing a To Do list item so now you are beating yourself up and trying to be Super Hero to still get it all done!

Sound familiar? It happens to me. Learn what this behavior costs you and some tips that have helped me and my clients.  See the small steps I recommend below so you can immediately break this cycle and begin a new habit.  Learn how to achieve more mindfulness, inner peace, purpose and mission-driven action which results in increased efficiency, better solutions, and JOY.

 

Giving up the struggle. Nature's lesson on freedom.

On a walk around the renovated South Pond in Chicago's Lincoln Park Zoo, I was gifted with a lesson from Nature, taught to me by a baby duck.  See my special no-cost offer below, inspired by this story, so YOU can benefit from Nature's lesson, too!

While strolling along the gorgeous new boardwalk, my husband and I came upon a family of ducks.  A mom and 3 babies maybe 2 weeks old, about 5 inches long, all cute and fuzzy.  What wasn't so warm and fuzzy is that the 3 ducklings were trapped on the wrong side of a continuous circuit of chicken wire set up on wooden stakes to protect the newly planted seeds on the edge of the pond! 

We watched intrigued and concerned as these 3 babies tried to get back to their mother.  The longer they struggled, the more we thought of ways to intervene. 

Then we decided to see what Nature would figure out.

21 Personal Evolution Strategies

This is a list of 21 stimulating approaches to life is designed to inspire new thinking, big dreaming and empowered action.  Read through this list and see which one most excites you to experiment and think, feel and act with more personal power! 

Email me at gail @ inspiredchoice.com for a private conversation about how you can make this a habit and boost your evolution.

To evolve more quickly and easily…

1. Surround yourself with new ideas instead of recycling your beliefs. Beliefs can limit your ability to experience life as it unfolds.

2. Make chaos your friend. The unexpected is a good thing as long as you’re open to it.

3. Let your environments do most of your evolutionary work for you. Evolution occurs as you adapt to such environments.

Shedding Shame -- Following Up on "Old" Leads

I am in a stuck place. Hard for a coach to admit and yet being authentic and modeling overcoming my own obstacles to inspire others is what I like to do in my obstacle-busting business.  So, permit me to coach myself, using Byron Katie's "The Work" process, as I share some deep insights with you that I know will help some of you to break through the yuck and ick of following up on leads and commitments you have not made the time or had the courage to act upon.

My situation.  I am stuck on following up on some leads and I am allowing this inaction to shame me.  Shame is an easy almost automatic place that I go to and see my clients go to when a task or commitment that takes courage goes undone. 

Acting from Inspiration vs. Acting from Lack

In my work with a client recently we talked about the overwhelm of how to build her business during the tougher economic climate we find ourselves in.  She wanted answers on how to get clients and what to do first.  “I want a plan, a step-by-step-plan!”

We arrived at the realization that when action is derived from a sense of sacred purpose, from inspiration, then the exact approach and steps don’t matter.  When you act from your heart and your mission, answers will come to you and people will magically cross your path.  All that matters is having a mission and asking people, "How can I help?" knowing you can!

I shared the reading below with my client and she just HAD to have a copy.  And so I am sharing it with all of you to help you see how to take action from inspiration.  The source is Abraham Hicks.  I've offered some inspiring music to accompany these words below.

Let me be a catalyst for you.  Let me help you take the leap into inspired action.